An Open Letter To My Daughter’s Stepmom

Candice Curry - W3

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To My Daughter’s Stepmom

I never wanted you here. You simply were never part of the plan. Growing up and dreaming of my family I never included you.   I didn’t want help from another woman to raise my child.  The plan was for my family to include me, daddy and our children, not you.  I doubt you ever wanted me in your life. I doubt you planned to mother a child that you didn’t give birth to. I can bet that your plan for your family included you, daddy and your children together, not me or my daughter. I can almost bet that when you dreamed of becoming a mother it would be the day you gave birth and not the day you married your husband.  I’m pretty sure you never planned on me being here.

But God has plans that far exceed our own and when my little…

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How I Protect My Hair from the “Heat Happy” stylist

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My hair worn straight. No pressing only blow dried on low heat, and straighten with a ceramic flat iron..
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2 weeks after straightening my hair. No heat damage occured. I ALWAYS prep my hair before going to see my stylist for ANY services providing HEAT. 1. Deep condition 2. Bring my OWN hair protector 3. REQUEST NO press and curl! Ladies YOU DO have CONTROL over what someone does to your hair. Don’t just sit in the chair and let them do whatever.

For starters I refuse a press every time I go to my stylist, I request they blow dry on low heat, and then use the ceramic flat irons to straighten my hair. I also bring my own heat protectant called TRESemme Thermal Creations Heat Tamer Hair Spray.. This works WONDERS for my hair. I have type 4B and 4C hair, my curl pattern is alot looser in the back and sides of my head. The middle is more coarse. I’m especially careful to add a bit more to those areas with this product. I also deep condition my hair before I’m scheduled for heat. I’m very big on protective styling but these past style I burned my ass with it.. Cut too far up into some damn box braids and fucked my shit up.. I was in TEARS!!! But I realized that it was ONLY hair and that it would grow back.. You will see a pic of what I’m talking about… All chopped and screwed… GRRRRRR!!! Normally I only straighten my hair for length checking and to trim my ends. Because with my lifestyle I can’t simply keep my hair straightened. For one it can be damaging to the health of your tresses, secondly, I’m an AVID gym goer. So it would be a waste of my COINZ! Annnnnd like the internet sensation SWEET BROWN says “Ain’t NOBODY GOT TIME FO DAT!!” My next post I will be talking about my current protective style! Also displaying the EPIC fuck up done on my behalf…. Stay tuned! Love my curl girls!