Ever since the engagement, many people have asked me questions about my relationship and the most prevalent one is “how long did you guys date?” The truth is we never did. He never asked me to be his girlfriend. He never asked me out on a solo date. We never even kissed. For as long as I’ve known him we were just friends… Friends that valued each other, prayed for one another, and wanted to see each other succeed in every area of life.
Now within this friendship, I admit, there were times when I looked at him like “Dang, he’s cute” or “I really admire this about him” or “I would love for my mate to have some of his qualities” but honestly there were A LOT of guys that I would say the very same thing about! Soon enough, I learned how to categorize the guys in my life by placing…
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A side chick is commonly known as a mistress or a woman that’s romantically involved with a man who is in a committed relationship. However after doing some reflecting, I realize that’s not the only type of side chick. I want to discuss “the new side chick”–a woman who decides to stay by a man’s side after he has expressed his lack of relationship intentions with her through his words or actions. So many women have made this mistake at least once in their lifetime, and unfortunately I’ve done the same thing.
I like to think of the new side chick as an appetizer. You’re there just to satisfy the immediate appetite of the man, but as soon as that mouth-watering entrée comes out to the table, you will get pushed to the side, literally. Why? Because that entrée is what he really wanted; he went to the restaurant to…
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To My Daughter’s Stepmom
I never wanted you here. You simply were never part of the plan. Growing up and dreaming of my family I never included you. I didn’t want help from another woman to raise my child. The plan was for my family to include me, daddy and our children, not you. I doubt you ever wanted me in your life. I doubt you planned to mother a child that you didn’t give birth to. I can bet that your plan for your family included you, daddy and your children together, not me or my daughter. I can almost bet that when you dreamed of becoming a mother it would be the day you gave birth and not the day you married your husband. I’m pretty sure you never planned on me being here.
But God has plans that far exceed our own and when my little…
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For starters I refuse a press every time I go to my stylist, I request they blow dry on low heat, and then use the ceramic flat irons to straighten my hair. I also bring my own heat protectant called TRESemme Thermal Creations Heat Tamer Hair Spray.. This works WONDERS for my hair. I have type 4B and 4C hair, my curl pattern is alot looser in the back and sides of my head. The middle is more coarse. I’m especially careful to add a bit more to those areas with this product. I also deep condition my hair before I’m scheduled for heat. I’m very big on protective styling but these past style I burned my ass with it.. Cut too far up into some damn box braids and fucked my shit up.. I was in TEARS!!! But I realized that it was ONLY hair and that it would grow back.. You will see a pic of what I’m talking about… All chopped and screwed… GRRRRRR!!! Normally I only straighten my hair for length checking and to trim my ends. Because with my lifestyle I can’t simply keep my hair straightened. For one it can be damaging to the health of your tresses, secondly, I’m an AVID gym goer. So it would be a waste of my COINZ! Annnnnd like the internet sensation SWEET BROWN says “Ain’t NOBODY GOT TIME FO DAT!!” My next post I will be talking about my current protective style! Also displaying the EPIC fuck up done on my behalf…. Stay tuned! Love my curl girls!